During the last post I wrote about Primero wanting to see
his mom, or well her asking to see him since that was how he expressed it to
me. He was supposed to talk to her Tuesday afternoon and try to flesh-out how she
envisioned the visit to happen, when, where, with whom – that sort of thing. I
suggested he tell her to call me so we could chat about it. It turns out he
never talked to her. I thought for sure she would want to arrange something for
this coming weekend, but Primero said she never text him to call her, so he
didn’t talk to her at all. So who knows when this visit will actually happen? I
find this very frustrating, how she pops in and out of Primero’s life at whim
and how he accepts it hook, line and sinker. This is the first time she has
asked for a visit with him and not just asked him to show up at a previously
arranged event she was attending. The last time he saw her was in September
when she was in town for his younger sister’s birthday and she put a message on
Facebook that she would be at the city park, then called him to meet her at a
local fast food restaurant. And, even though it was an inconvenience and I was
thoroughly annoyed at him for flip-flopping and at first deciding he wouldn’t
go, then asking to see her when she called, we went and saw her briefly. I don’t
know what she had in mind for this visit, if she thought I would just drive him
to see her or what, but I’m not going to worry about it anymore. If Primero
asks me again I will ask him the same questions of where, when, and with whom
(meaning with little kids or sans little kids). I don’t think I’m asking for
too much in hoping to have these questions answered before committing to a
plan.
Hermano moved into his new foster home on Monday. According
to Esperanza, he is one of two kids in the home and the other child is a 14
month old baby girl. Apparently his girlfriend bought him a cell phone now that
he’s out of the inpatient facility where he had been staying. Everyone is
holding their breath and hoping he won’t mess this placement up and get sent back
to the facility or worse. The rumor about him fathering a child over the summer
has still not been answered, but I haven’t heard anything further from the
county case worker so who knows. Hermano was already asking when he would visit
with us, so we will have to see about arranging a visit soon. I don’t know if
the county wants him to settle in for a period of time before beginning the
visits.
After giving it a lot of thought and second guessing myself
every step of the way, I bought Primero a small box of condoms over the
weekend. I told him I hoped he would not feel the need to rush out and use
them, but that I wanted him to be protected if he did decide to have sex. And I
begged him to be extra careful with his girlfriend because I would lose my mind
if he got her pregnant. He was rather annoyed that I actually bought him
condoms, stating he’s not having sex anytime soon, but well we all know how
that goes don’t we? I did tell him that I believe, if he feels he is old enough
and responsible enough to have sex then he should also be old enough and
responsible enough to buy his own condoms. Again, we know how that goes! So, at
least I’ve tried to make sure he is protected but I sincerely hope he waits a
little while longer before becoming sexually active.
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