Last week there was a baby shower for one of our co-workers.
The third shower at work since October. I did not attend. My co-worker friend,
who also did not attend, told me later in the day one of the supervisors came
around to see why a lot of people from our area in the building didn’t attend
(the pregnant co-worker is on a different team so we don’t interact much, which
is why my friend didn’t attend the shower). This is the same supervisor who was
sort of prying when I skipped out on the first baby shower back in the fall.
She is now asking her team (she isn’t my supervisor but I work in close proximity
with her team) who skipped the shower and me and my co-worker friend to chip in
for a gift because we all missed the baby shower. Really? So, apparently baby
showers are a mandatory function around here? I really hope no one else gets
pregnant because I just don’t have it in me to attend a baby shower anytime
soon.
Just a week after one co-worker left for the birth of her
baby, a co-worker out on maternity leave came back to work. Her return was heralded
by a cubicle decorated with balloons filled with confetti and streamers. I don’t
know why it annoyed me as much as it did, but yeah, it bugged me. It’s not
enough to have a baby shower, a brand new baby, but now a welcome back party? I
guess some of it is because there was literally no fanfare when I became a
mother. Adopting a teenager is nothing to party about….
“I’ve gone through childbirth, I can do anything.” This was
uttered by a co-worker about to go on medical leave for an elective surgery. It
was on the heels of talking with the new mom about issues with their bodies
following child birth. Meh, I have three
kids and I don’t pee when I sneeze, so suck it you fertile bitches. I’m just in
a really snarky mood today, apparently….
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Ok, I don't understand the mandatory baby showers. And I really don't understand the welcome back stuff. The most anyone does at work is say congratulations and wishes well (online or in person). And this has been true both in the case of a foster placement and a childbirth.
ReplyDeleteTo be fair, no one has said the baby showers are mandatory, it just feels that way when my absence is queried. I'm fine with staff holding baby showers, so long as I have the ability to opt-out, since baby showers make me cry ugly tears...
DeleteUgh. I'm so sorry. I don't get the whole welcome back cube decorating. But fertiles just don't think twice about things like that, and I know I'm so much more attune to it.
ReplyDeleteYep. Fertiles make a huge fuss of each other, and don't even think about what they're saying when they do that, or don't do that, as the case maybe.
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