Getting out of Limbo

Monday evening Chica Marie was evaluated for a TSS worker. This morning she was re-evaluated for sexual abuse (she was evaluated just before moving in with me but it was inconclusive due to her young age). After many moons of little to no services, we’ve hit the motherlode and are now swimming in services. Chica Marie will spend two half-days per week in a special behavioral classroom to get her prepared for kindergarten and she will have a TSS worker with her for 15 hours a week plus her mobile therapist will see her twice a week, once at home and once at daycare. She’s starting school with an IEP. Oh, and her new meds. We finally got permission for her to take the meds, so she started on them today. We’ll see how it goes.

 

The good thing about this morning’s evaluation was having the county case worker there because I got to pick her brain about this case and where things are headed. After her confusing email response to my questions following the planning meeting last month, I had no idea what was happening. She had said not to expect anything to happen at our next permanency hearing, but didn’t really indicate why. She elaborated for me this morning. She has spoken to the little ones bio mom and explained that, although she is doing well now and has recently begun working on what she needs to do, the county has to look at what is best for the kids. She hasn’t seen them since last summer and right now Love Bug is not bonded to her at all. So, given that she still has work to do and the kids have been away from her for so long, the county is pursuing TPR, regardless of her improvements. It’s so sad for her, to think she’s finally doing what she needs to do and it’s just a little too late. The county case worker said she cried when she was told this. The county case worker suggested she try to forge a relationship with me so she could remain a part of the kids’ lives. I really hope she does try to reach out to me, I would welcome her contact and we would work to develop some type of relationship in which she can spend time with the kids, assuming she stays on her current healthy path.  I truly hope this is the case because I would hate to have her totally evaporate from the little ones lives. Poor Love Bug would never remember her and Chica Marie would always wonder what happened to her and where she is now.

 

It was a relief to know the county is actually moving with this case, despite the useless court hearing in May. The county case worker hopes to have TPR before the court date or at the very least, have a date for TPR by then. At least the case seems to be moving, which is better than this stagnant limbo.